Presented by Lekan Oyefesobi
I always wondered when men say they are ready for marriage, what exactly does that mean?
Gen 2:7-10
I want you to notice the God’s sequence. God created Adam. Note that before there was Adam and Eve, it was Adam and God. That’s the way it should be. Before a man marries a woman, he needs to be walking with God.
Immediately after he created man, He created a home for him. And if you continue reading, you’ll notice he created food and water for him.
Gen 2:21-24
As you can see, God is a God of order. He sets a home for Adam and you’d notice, he went ahead and provided food and shelter. He set an order in Genesis for us all to follow. In God’s order, he wants for a man to have a home, food and water before he gets married.
Can you imagine how beautiful the Garden of Eden must have been? So this is a piece of advise for you single ladies, when you’re dating a man and you walk into his house or apartment, the first thing to check is not only does he have a home, but is it a home that is desirable. It doesn’t have to be like the garden of Eden* But it has to be clean this way you know if he can take care of you.
2. A Man must be able to take care of his Wife:
Before a man can talk about marriage seriously, he needs to be able to provide for his wife. He needs to be financially stable. If he doesn’t have a job, let him wait till he gets one.
1 Timothy 5:8
Ephesians 5:21-26
3. They both need to have a clear understanding of marital responsibilities:
This is a key ingredient to a successful marriage. If you have an exam, you are forced to prepare for it. This should be the case for a marriage.
Many people have distorted the meaning of the passage. They think Paul’s teaching is giving unlimited authority to the husband. According to the bible, the man is the spiritual head of the family, and his wife should acknowledge his leadership. But real spiritual service involves service. Just as Christ served his disciples by washing their feet, so should the man serve his wife.
4. He should have the capacity for Love:
It’s no rocket science. People who have the capacity for Love, which means to understand the feelings of others and are responsible, secure and economically stable make better marriage partners.
1 Cor 13: 3-6
Ecclesiastes 4: 9-12 two is better than one
Jeremiah 29:11 :For I know the plans I have for you…
5. Communication is the key.. Cannot stress it enough.
- Having different opinions is okay, as long as you agree to disagree. The right person will communicate thoughts and feelings with you and not keep it bottled up.
- Understand that the only constant in life is change, the right person is willing to discuss marriage issues, questions, and topics with you before and after you get married.
- The right person will encourage you to make decisions to live a healthy lifestyle by eating healthier foods and getting exercise.
6. Trust and Honesty.
- The right person will not monitor phone calls or email. You will know you’re marrying the right person if your future spouse does not isolate you from your friends and family. You have the right to hang out with them.
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